tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post5566164147779344785..comments2024-03-27T23:59:01.850-07:00Comments on Writing About Writing (And Occasionally Some Writing): Coming Out as FeministChris Brecheenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07819138776404280633noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-83054745940601305082019-07-21T17:34:40.693-07:002019-07-21T17:34:40.693-07:00I loved your article, thank you so much!I loved your article, thank you so much!Katherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02326724172843405860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-60638060931518632462018-01-22T08:00:25.296-08:002018-01-22T08:00:25.296-08:00Thank you. It's an often misunderstood word. W...Thank you. It's an often misunderstood word. We need more men to identify as feminists.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02560228135129770367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-11852208512412364942018-01-20T05:48:07.771-08:002018-01-20T05:48:07.771-08:00I LOVED this Chris! Thank you for SO much for putt...I LOVED this Chris! Thank you for SO much for putting this into words. I love everything that you write:"It's 2010 and the world is still pissed off about the ending of Lost." :)<br />This post however was truly brilliant and I will do my small part to make it viral.<br />Marina Shemeshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13763760351310443656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-42891307369701350902018-01-18T21:58:16.424-08:002018-01-18T21:58:16.424-08:00This is fantastic. Thank you so much. This is fantastic. Thank you so much. undomniel91https://www.blogger.com/profile/09635653234830674831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-42378475893437488352018-01-18T17:36:52.663-08:002018-01-18T17:36:52.663-08:00Reading this has eased some of the tightness in my...Reading this has eased some of the tightness in my chest. Every day, ignorant people incapable of understanding why their ignorance can be harmful say something to tighten the knots in my body. But today, I got a little bit of relief. <br />Please, keep writing! Writers like you are the reason I still have faith in humanity. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08315207193229181751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-84431466724464916872017-02-24T10:38:33.997-08:002017-02-24T10:38:33.997-08:00God, it's so good to read that! THANK YOU.God, it's so good to read that! THANK YOU.Ameliahttp://albertfloyd.over-blog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-51351887298287297052016-08-15T02:06:44.156-07:002016-08-15T02:06:44.156-07:00This post is just perfect.This post is just perfect.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09722620609221313195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-66028809748731424722016-01-07T05:35:22.973-08:002016-01-07T05:35:22.973-08:00You might not appreciate the comparison (I believe...You might not appreciate the comparison (I believe you're not a huge Pratchett Fan), but you do sometimes remind me of Sam Vimes (a twenty-first century Roundworld one, that is). It's a compliment. Great article.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18279460504136995807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-46060659697912344132015-12-29T15:48:52.195-08:002015-12-29T15:48:52.195-08:00The problem with the word feminism is more how it&...The problem with the word feminism is more how it's defined. From what I've seen there are two major camps in their views of the definition. The one that appears to be the media representation. The one in which women are superior and should be made as such is not a view that I and many others agree with. That view is what gives the word its dirty reputation. The other definition is that feminism is about increasing equality as much as possible while still acknowledging our dimorphic species and making the appropriate allowances for those to help empower both genders as equally as possible. That definition I moat definitely will stand behind.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-428478007982014112015-10-02T21:06:06.846-07:002015-10-02T21:06:06.846-07:00"painting themselves as imminently reasonable..."painting themselves as imminently reasonable"<br /><br />Do you mean painting themselves as eminently reasonable, as in prestigious, respectable, prominent - qualities often held by those in power?<br /><br />Or perhaps the defense of the status quo has *seemed* like it was about to become reasonable, imminently, any moment now? If so, then it's jam yesterday and jam tomorrow, and never jam today.Riley37https://www.blogger.com/profile/01688675764399762801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-85362538334550148632015-06-11T07:00:56.619-07:002015-06-11T07:00:56.619-07:00Awwwwww. <3Awwwwww. <3Chris Brecheenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07819138776404280633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-28087662176127645882015-06-10T13:04:57.531-07:002015-06-10T13:04:57.531-07:00I think that I'm falling in love.....I think that I'm falling in love.....<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-38092655685503834872015-02-08T19:37:39.872-08:002015-02-08T19:37:39.872-08:00As a feminist and a secular humanist, it annoys th...As a feminist and a secular humanist, it annoys the hell out of me when anti-feminist twits propose "humanist" as an alternative as though they'd just invented the word, and it didn't have a long-standing, established meaning that's not only not mutually exclusive of feminism, but arguably <i>requires</i> feminism as one of the key elements of a humanist worldview and ethical stance. The <a href="https://www.secularhumanism.org/index.php/12" rel="nofollow">Affirmations of Humanism</a> include these statements:<br /><br />•We are concerned with securing justice and fairness in society and with eliminating discrimination and intolerance.<br /><br />•We believe in supporting the disadvantaged and the handicapped so that they will be able to help themselves.<br /><br />•We respect the right to privacy. Mature adults should be allowed to fulfill their aspirations, to express their sexual preferences, to exercise reproductive freedom, to have access to comprehensive and informed health-care, and to die with dignity.<br /><br />It takes a special kind of willful ignorance for someone not to notice that eliminating discrimination and intolerance, supporting the disadvantaged, and reproductive freedom, and access to comprehensive and informed healthcare are not matters that affect both genders equally. You can't actually pursue those goals, in the real world, and not be a feminist, and if you're not pursuing those goals you have no business calling yourself a humanist.Alex Harmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18081758930952296822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-17663210271926251202015-02-08T19:34:16.016-08:002015-02-08T19:34:16.016-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Alex Harmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18081758930952296822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-30652339553288291692014-08-28T09:37:07.214-07:002014-08-28T09:37:07.214-07:00From one feminist man to another - well evolved. I...From one feminist man to another - well evolved. I, too, used to be in the "equalist" camp when it came to women or gay people, or people of color. "Why can't we all just get along and stop talking about things that make me feel uncomfortable? I'm a good person so why do I need to hear about sexism/racism/homophobia?" The cowardice in that stance is so plain to me now, it amazes me I that ever allowed myself to go down that path.<br /><br />Thanks for standing up with the rest of us. We've got a lot of work to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-25123009655591161182014-08-22T03:04:36.138-07:002014-08-22T03:04:36.138-07:00No duplicate. Thank you for the recommended read. ...No duplicate. Thank you for the recommended read. I liked it!Chris Brecheenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07819138776404280633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-41453522567097950502014-08-14T06:05:56.252-07:002014-08-14T06:05:56.252-07:00Keep on writing! This is perfect! Thanks!Keep on writing! This is perfect! Thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-81599785003474140052014-07-14T22:44:40.001-07:002014-07-14T22:44:40.001-07:00If you haven't already, you might want to chec...If you haven't already, you might want to check out an article on the Daily Kos. It's of a similar vein to yours, and definitely addressed to clueless individuals like Peter. http://www.dailykos.com/story/2014/05/30/1303118/-Dear-Men-STFU<br /><br />What's worse, is that even as a woman I used to do the humanist crap myself (I do still call myself one, just not in direct relation to any other ist/ism), just to avoid getting lumped in with those scary fight-the-phallocracy chicks from PCU. I wish I remembered when I came to my senses. I don't know when it happened, I just remember one day thinking, "Wait, so to avoid being labeled as someone who only cares about women's issues, I'm supposed to avoid being labeled as someone who cares about issues which affect my life every single day - like for instance, whether or not my state should be able to pass a law, forcing me to have an invasive and unnecessary medical test, in order to have a routine medical procedure, because some people want to guilt trip me into being a walking incubator?Something is seriously messed up here." <br /><br />From one reclaimed feminist to another - well done for shaking off the flotsam of men sick of this feminism crap. I'd hope Peter will read this and grasp the concept, but as an atheist, I don't believe in miracles. :)<br /><br />P.S. If this ended as a duplicate, my apologies - the login process had some issues. CleverTitaniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12860598551105371051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-86656574034215253002014-07-13T16:16:45.398-07:002014-07-13T16:16:45.398-07:00Excellent article! I really enjoyed it, and wanted...Excellent article! I really enjoyed it, and wanted to thank you for telling your story so other people can relate to it.<br /><br />I also found it quite helpful to understand how your own mind was changed, It's given me a lot to think, and I hope it helps my conversations with men and equalists around me. Luzbelitxhttp://thexidentity.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-60785852653470773582014-07-13T16:01:04.730-07:002014-07-13T16:01:04.730-07:00Are you me? 'Cause I've done this, never ...Are you me? 'Cause I've done this, never realizing what was wrong with the logic of it. Dammit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-71562343117286398872014-07-13T13:55:58.445-07:002014-07-13T13:55:58.445-07:00Isabelle, I didn't get an email notification a...Isabelle, I didn't get an email notification about this comment for some reason, so today is the first I'm seeing it. But I just wanted to say thank you for chiming in. I think you're onto something about the fact that they can't even see it.Chris Brecheenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07819138776404280633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-85419294241947814382014-06-05T01:37:25.623-07:002014-06-05T01:37:25.623-07:00thank you so much. I cannot tell you how many men ...thank you so much. I cannot tell you how many men I have tried to have this exact conversation with. where they try to "explain to me" why I should stop using "this offensive word: feminism". they are unable to see that their very attitude is exactly why the word is needed, and they wouldn't listen to me or believe me BECAUSE I AM FEMALE and they felt ATTACTED by the conversation. I have reposted this both on fb and G+ and i hope they read it.<br /><br />I lived in Texas for a short time... and people there would claim they weren't "racist" and I quote "just as long as they stayed over there"... they really had no idea they were bigots... and that is how I feel these people are about "misogynism"... these people really believe they are not misogynists, but they are so programmed into it that they can not see it. it is so frustrating.Shadowrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02585177946920955385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-65862146098544305092014-06-04T18:03:40.108-07:002014-06-04T18:03:40.108-07:00Don't mind at all! I think that's pretty ...Don't mind at all! I think that's pretty awesome, actually.<br />Chris Brecheenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07819138776404280633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-19618298006082320972014-06-01T06:59:10.441-07:002014-06-01T06:59:10.441-07:00Hey, Chris.
Great post. I'm taking the liber...Hey, Chris. <br /><br />Great post. I'm taking the liberty of recommending it to people around the web. Hope you don't mind.Lukashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01844177654412625852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2660089177097719300.post-26144114724324314552014-05-31T09:24:49.911-07:002014-05-31T09:24:49.911-07:00Based on your grammar, I wonder if it's the ON...Based on your grammar, I wonder if it's the ONLY blog you've ever bothered to read.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com